Thursday, May 16, 2013
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My regular routine doesn't allow me as much time for exercise as I'd like. In the past, when I had a few days away and my schedule permitted, I would enjoy doing some biking or hiking, or running. Of course, my body always told me that I hadn't been doing it enough. I ended up hurting in places I didn't even know I had places! But it's good to get some extra exercise when you can.
One of those times, my wife and I were away, and I had a chance to do some jogging on the beach at sunrise. I was chugging along trying to cover those last few hundred yards, which seemed like the longest and pounding back down the beach all tired and sweaty and disgusting. My muscles were saying, "Stop this, will you!" And then I saw my wife in the distance. Well, that was a great motivation to finish, and to finish strong. So I kind of picked up the pace a little bit, and had almost reached her when I saw what she had written in huge letters in the sand, "I love you, Ron." Oh boy, there it was! What a happy ending to my run...or for any man on any day.
I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about "The 'I Love You' At the Finish Line."
Our word for today from the Word of God is about "wife-ing" actually, and it's in Titus 2:4-5. It's actually instructions to the older women in the church as to what they should, from their well of experience, train the younger women to be like. He says, "Then they can train the younger women..." First and foremost notice now, "...to love their husbands and children. To be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands so that no one will malign the Word of God."
Actually, this passage is referring to two generations of loving wives, because obviously the older women had to do it in order to be able to teach it to the younger women. So, in both generations, the very first word to the women is, "Love your husband." Proverbs 31, that great description of the woman every godly woman wants to be, the Proverbs 31 Woman, well here's what it says about her in verse 12. "She brings her husband good, not harm, all the days of her life." Notice, each 24-hour period. In other words, she brings daily goodies into his life. Now, there's that picture of me running on the beach, coming toward the finish line, tired, feeling like quitting. And suddenly I see these words, "I love you, Ron." It gave me incentive to cross the finish line.
I'll tell you, that's a picture of many days in the life of a man close to you - a husband, a son, a brother. He comes home tired from today's run. Few things mean more to a man than to know that he will find an "I love you" at the finish line. I think a man can handle almost anything if he's sure that he will be safe and appreciated and loved when he gets home. You know, "All's well that ends well." Lots of pressure, lots of stress, but I can handle it if I know there's going to be security at the finish line.
There are a lot of ways to say it to him. First, just verbally express it. Don't just say, "I love you until further notice." No, tell him often. Touch him affectionately. Provide peace in the house as much as possible when he arrives home; maybe that special meal or special card or special note. Now, it's hard, because you've had a long run too. But God will give you strength to put your husband first when you feel like being first yourself.
By the way, what a tremendous surprise it is if that wife is greeted by a man who's more concerned about her needs than his own. If you're a woman, say "I love you" in his language; not just on Valentine's Day or anniversary, but remember "I love you" never means more than after that finish line that he crosses after a long day's run.