Tuesday, July 30, 2002
OK, I couldn't put it off any longer - we had to move the piano. Now, in spite of my Arnold Schwarzenaegger-build (this is radio; you'll never know), I decided it wouldn't be a good idea to move that monster alone. In fact, I remember my dad needed surgery after he helped move a piano once! So the time we moved the piano was determined by one thing: what time could some guys be there to help? As we eased that piano slowly down the front steps, I was so thankful for those other guys. I had my hands full just carrying my corner! This was something that was obviously never meant to be carried alone.
I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about "Carrying It Alone."
That could be a mistake you're making right now - maybe you've been making for a long time. You have some things in your life that are pretty heavy, and they are really weighing you down, maybe even crushing you sometimes. But the problem isn't just how much that monster weighs. It may be that you're insisting on carrying it alone. You won't do what I did when I had something that was too heavy for me alone. I called for help.
Well, our word for today from the Word of God reminds us that going it alone is unnecessary, it's unwise, it's unprofitable. Ecclesiastes 4 beginning in verse 9: "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. Pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! ... though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves."
You get the picture. God says, work with someone else on it. Walk with someone else. Fight the battle with someone else. Notice, Jesus even sent the early disciples out two-by-two. The involvement of some people who shared my load made the difference in whether or not I could carry what I had to carry on piano day. That same equation could make all the difference for you.
Could it be that you've been overwhelmed by your pain, by your issues, by your burden because you've insisted on trying to deal with it yourself? When you fall, you stay down because you've not let anyone in that can pick you up. When you try to carry something heavy alone, you end up injured, or you end up with more pain. You can even be paralyzed.
Maybe it's your pride that's kept you from sharing the burden you're carrying. Or the fear of what someone might think. Or a victim mentality that sort of perversely thrives on feeling like a martyr. Maybe it's hard for you to trust because of past betrayals. But whatever the risks are of asking someone to help you with this, the risks are far greater of being crushed by it alone.
Let someone in, won't you? Let your wife or your husband into this aching part of you; or your mom or dad. Or open it up to the help of a spiritual leader or a spiritually mature friend. Maybe you need to talk with a pastor or counselor who can bring some objectivity and experience to sorting it out. They have probably walked this road with others before you.
Now you may be the one a hurting person calls on for some help. And if they do reach out and ask you to help carry the load, realize what a trust they are giving you. Don't ever betray their confidence, don't condemn, and don't take it lightly. Listen a lot before you talk. Pray with them about it. Look for practical ways that you and others can help.
Maybe you're carrying the load of many years right now, or of a recent blow. It may be something you've wanted to be a secret, but that secret is like a cancer eating you up inside. You've got to let someone in. You've carried this alone long enough. With the loving help of someone lifting the other end, you can finally make progress on what has been unmovable until now.