You know who you want to be and who people need for you to be, but you're not anywhere close to that person. It's difficult to close the gap between the two.
When you can admit that, it is the first step to a new you. Behind your mask of having it together, is a man or woman addicted to selfishness, or unfaithfulness, or depression, or an out-of-control temper, or sexual appetite, or a bad habit. Maybe you have tried reforming, but it hasn't worked.
2 Corinthians 5:17 of the Word of God is a promise from God to do something we can never do for ourselves. It is a miracle only He can do. It says, "If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has gone, the new has come." This means that you can be a new creation. You've got to come to the point where you're tired of not being the man or woman you really want to be and who those you love really need you to be.
You need to get ready for Jesus, and you're ready when you're "In Christ." Without Him, you're in trouble. The ultimate diagnosis of your inner darkness is called sin. You've got the wrong person running things. The Bible says, "Sin, when it is full grown gives birth to death." ( James 1:15) Sin separates you from the people you love, and from the person you want to be and you need to be. It separates you from your Creator, forever, unless you are "In Christ."
How do you get in Christ? John 3:16 says, "God loved the world so much that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him will not die, but will have eternal life." All the faith that you've put in yourself, your religion, and in other people, put it all in Jesus now. Then there can be a new beginning, a new dad or a new mom, a new son or a new daughter, a new mate, or a new friend. Someone much stronger will be in the driver's seat. He will take your life places you never dreamed it could go, and daily recreate you into someone who is becoming like Jesus Himself.
It is more than a new face. It is a transformed heart. It is a miracle only Jesus can do, and He is waiting to do it for you.