When you're angry, you're probably a lot like a volcano. You erupt, spew out your lava, and often blow away a piece of the other person, if not yourself.
Every one of us carries around parts of us that have been mortally wounded by something someone said to us in anger. They may have forgotten it, but we can't ever forget it because those create volcano scars. Why do we do this to other people and usually the people we love the most?
Proverbs 12:18 says, "Reckless words pierce like a sword." That's the awesome power of our angry, irresponsible words. Proverbs 18:21 says that "The tongue has the power of life and death." We can say things that make a person feel more alive or that make them feel dead inside. You've had it happen to you, haven't you?
The Bible pays a high tribute to a person who's under control. Proverbs 16:32 says, "Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city." That's real manhood.
If you're tired of erupting and leaving volcano scars on people, maybe it's time to follow the steps to becoming an extinct volcano:
- Confess your anger and your reckless words as the sin that they really are. Bring it to Jesus' cross and treat it as some of the ugly sin that literally killed our Savior. Then confess it to the victims of your anger.
- Don't let the lava build up; deal with issues right away.
- Make yourself listen and ask questions before you speak. James 1:19 says, "Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." If you listen, you'll be slower to have anger.
- Don't say anything at all until you're under control.
- Make Jesus Christ the Lord of the raging animal inside you. We've all got one. That's the uncontrollable parts of us that are constant reminders that we need a Savior.
Give it to Him for this new day. If volcanoes could think, maybe they'd think twice about blowing their top. The volcano might reason, "You know, maybe I'll feel better for a while, but is it worth blowing away a part of myself? Is it worth blowing away a part of a person I love?" Well, when we think about it, we know it's not worth it. The tongue has the power of life and death and "reckless words pierce like a sword." Haven't we left enough volcano scars?